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Understanding the energy of emotions – a Homeopath’s perspective

This article was first published on the Harbord Homeopathic Clinic website.

Whenever a patient asks me whether homeopathy can help ‘cure’ their ailments, admittedly, I get very nervous. The word ‘cure’ puts me in a position of great responsibility and gives the patient a heavy weight of hope, which is unfair to both of us. Even our conventional medical practitioner does not promise a cure – so why that unrealistic expectation with homeopathy? Instead, I tell my patients that homeopathy will help facilitate their journey towards a sense of internal well-being or equilibrium.

I realised very early in my homeopathic career that my role was that of a facilitator – to help patients restore their own equilibrium – and help them find their own balance amidst the chaos. In this world, we are constantly pushed in different directions in our quest to fulfill our myriad roles and expectations. What this brings about is an energetic imbalance – an upset in our equilibrium – that manifests as physical, emotional or mental ailments.

To appreciate homeopathy, we must understand this concept of energy imbalance. For example, when we experience the passing on of a loved one, we are washed with grief – and this is a normal, natural emotion to experience at that time. But what is grief in itself? It is not something physical that we can touch and see, but an emotion that is felt and experienced. Often, I have come across individuals, who after going through immense grief, see a relapse in their skin conditions, develop sudden high blood pressure or heart ailments, amongst other things. How is it possible that grief, which is non-physical, can cause a physical condition that can be diagnosed and measured? Not many of us think about it.

Grief or any other form of stress is a type of energy that permeates our cells and being at an energy level – the physical conditions that result are a mere manifestation of this energy imbalance at the cellular level. Hence, if we want to restore that energy imbalance, the remedy that we choose must also address the patient at an energy level. This is the essence of “like cures like” in homeopathy. We cannot expect a chemical drug to restore our equilibrium at the energy level.

Two years ago, an elderly lady came to me with high blood pressure. She said that she had developed this problem a couple of months after the untimely death of her son. He had passed away unexpectedly, under very tragic conditions. When she came to me, it had already been over a year since the incident but she was still inconsolable during the consultation as she spoke. She was also on medication to control her blood pressure.

Based on her personality and the ‘rawness’ of her state, I prescribed Ignatia, which over a course of several weeks, helped her regain a sense of harmony. She still thought about her son a lot, but the remedy helped restore a certain balance that had tipped over. Over a period of six months with homeopathic treatment, she began to accept her son’s passing and as she healed emotionally, her health improved and her doctor was able to slowly take her off the medication for blood pressure.

In the case above, I did not treat the high blood pressure. The goal of treatment was to help her with the grief. Once the remedy helped address the energetic imbalance brought upon by the loss, her physical condition, ie: high blood pressure, came under control.

The same applies to all the other emotions that are categorised as ‘negative’. Excessive fear, anger and lust can quickly upset the energetic balance of our being and manifest into physical conditions. If we want to achieve harmony and regain our sense of equilibrium, it is important to flush out the garbage at the energy level first. So the next time you are tempted to ask a health practitioner if your physical condition can be cured. Think again. Is there something that you can do for yourself first?

By: Mariya Mustan

Healing Grief

The loss of a loved one, whether a family member, friend or even a pet, triggers in us a plethora of emotions, which we generally call grief. Although grief is usually associated with the passing on of a loved one, it is not exclusive to just that. Grief is simply a sense of loss that is felt after losing something or someone. It could be a person, job or even a loss of status, which is rather common in today’s world, where one’s fortunes change in a matter of seconds.

It is important to allow the grieving process to take its course, but if it extends years and severely hampers one’s ability to carry on with life, help is required.

Many a times, people complain of long-standing aches and pain, chronic migraines, perpetual fears and anxieties for which they do not have a definite cause. It is almost as though they cannot remember a time without the pain. Upon further questioning, they finally come to realise that their complaints started after the death or parting of a loved one.

The inability to come to terms with loss is a very common cause of various ailments. In homeopathy, there some excellent remedies to balance a person’s vital force in such situations since it takes into account the whole person and not just the physical symptoms.

Please consult a qualified practitioner if you are considering homeopathic treatment . Do not attempt to self-medicate in this situation as a delicate handling of your constitution is required.  A homeopathic practitioner will not just prescribe on the sense of loss but will take into consideration your totality before prescribing a remedy.

If you are not yet ready to see a practitioner, you may want to consider Bach Flower remedies to aid you in your healing. Since flower remedies are selected simply based on current emotions and feelings, no prior medical knowledge is required. Hence, they are excellent for self-healing.

Some suitable Bach Flower Remedies:

Star of Bethlehem – This is the chief remedy for shock, trauma and grief. It is very effective when the trauma seems to overwhelm one’s existence and cannot be released. This is the first remedy to be given when one receives shocking news. This will give the person strength to absorb the shock and maintain equanimity.

Walnut – This is the remedy that helps with adjustment and change in life after any major event. It breaks any negative link with the past and allows a person to positively adapt to situations. This should be considered when a person is going through a transitional phase after experiencing a loss.

Honeysuckle – The key use of honeysuckle is to help one come out of a lost relationship. There is a lot of longing for past relationships or life situations and the person is unable to focus on the present. This is also a very effective remedy when one is distressed about the loss of youth, health and or beauty.

The remedies can be taken in combination, four times a day at an interval of 3 to 4 hours for up to 3 weeks.

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